Parents' response to fights can nurture weakness and aggression
Parents’ response to fights can nurture weakness or aggression.

Situation: When kids are fighting a parent’s response can nurture the wrong behavior.

Parent Talk Tip: Family counselor Diane Moore tells a typical example of a parent that “gets on” the mean one and “huggin’ up” the victim. She says parents actually nurture aggressiveness and weakness by responding to fights in this way. Telling a child what to do is more effective than telling a child what not to do.

Diane Moore is a certified family life counselor and parent mentor with a private practice in Vancouver. Parent Talk is her radio talk show heard in Portland, Vancouver and Boise. Today’s tip comes from a conversation between Diane and one of the show’s callers. It has been edited for time.

Audio by Naylene Frunk

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