Diane Moore gets to the real problem for parents.

Situation: How do you stop being simply reactive to bad behavior?


Parent Talk Tip: Diane Moore says that if you’re just trying to stop bad behavior all the time by making it go away, you’re missing a great opportunity.

Every problem is an opportunity to think a little deeper about the root cause of the behavior, Moore says. “What is the real problem? What is the character that needs to be instilled?”

For example, Moore says parents are often simply conditioned to accept bad behavior in adolescence, instead of addressing the root character issues. “Challenge kids to get out of themselves,” she adds.

Diane Moore is a certified family life counselor and parent mentor with a private practice in Vancouver. Parent Talk is her radio talk show heard in Portland, Vancouver and Boise. Today’s tip comes from a conversation between Moore and one of the show’s callers. It has been edited for time.

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